Parents should support children in a love marriage. But you must decide whether they are making a mistake. If they are wrong, then try to explain it to them. Children these days lack discretion. Today’s Children are intelligent but lack discretion (the ability to decide right and wrong). You must see whether they are trapped in deceit or fraud to satisfy their lust. If this is the case, then it is seen that the children divorce after some time, bitterness starts coming into the relationship, or many types of destructive-violent tendencies start showing up.
Parents should check both sides. If both children genuinely love each other, if their behaviour has not deteriorated (they haven’t indulged in physical relationships), and if both want to dedicate their lives to each other, we should support them. This decision should be taken according to the scriptures, with the parents’ permission, after considering the horoscope, etc. But now all this is slowly coming to an end. Due to the influence of Kaliyug, the trend of girlfriends, boyfriends and live-in relationships has started. Now there is no aspect of Dharma in these, it is only animalism. It is only a game of lust for sexual pleasure. If this were not so, why do people break up every few months? How will those who have got used to this be able to maintain a relationship with a single life partner with restraint for their whole life?
Children’s lives are being ruined due to a lot of deception. Parents should explain to their children that pleasure is not the only subject of married life. Dharma is also needed to live a full life. If there is no Dharma, then adulterous people can never live a happy married life.
Should We Make This Decision And Leave Everything To Fate?
We should not leave everything to fate. For Sita’s marriage, Maharaj Janak had also put a condition that whoever breaks the bow of Shiva would be Sita’s husband. This is the duty of the parents; it cannot be left to fate. You have to test whether the boy and the girl suit each other. Children love only to satisfy their physical needs. They do not know the meaning of love. They call sex as love because they do not know. Therefore, care should be taken, and everything should not be left to fate.
Janak Maharaj was a very knowledgeable Saint, yet he put a condition. The vision that you have, children do not have it. Children only have vision related to the body, and your vision is for the lifelong survival of the relationship. You see how the boy or the girl behaves, how his or her behaviour is, and what his or her nature is. Children are very innocent by nature, and at a young age, all this seems to be only physical attraction. They will take a decision only according to that.
Children Don’t Tell Their Parents Due To Fear!
Parents should treat their children like friends. Children should have enough faith in you that if they tell you their heart’s feelings, you will support them and not punish them. Life is full of troubles; a life of impure thoughts and adultery can never be auspicious. One whose character is corrupt cannot take the vow of having a single life partner. It is not wrong to befriend someone, but you should remain pure until you marry. If you do this, you will be able to maintain that relationship for the rest of your life; otherwise, even after marriage, there will be divorce, and there will be no peace.
That is why children should listen to scriptures and spiritual discourses (Satsang) and chant the name of God. Then, their intelligence will become pure. Parents should give children an opportunity to express their thoughts. And after that think separately from the situation. Do not get angry just by asserting your rights as a parent. You should think about how happiness can be provided to children.
How to deal with the fear of society!
This is not the time to worry about society but to save children. It is easy to point fingers at others, but when it happens to one’s child, one understands. You should help them make the right choice with discretion so that they walk on the path of God with righteousness and remain happy. If both children are compatible and want to live righteous lives, you should support them. And you should see that the children do not get caught in deceit. This is the duty of parents.
Guidance By: Shri Hit Premanand Govind Sharan Ji Maharaj
